1Sam. 30:1-3 David lost everything. Burden of leadership. After all the losses he finally learned dependence on God. You have to get to a place where you let God guide your life.
Gal. 5:22 Walk by the spirit.
Prov. 29:18 When people do not accept divine guidance they run wild.
We have elevated emotions above God, God's will. The truth about emotions, they can lie to us...they can deceive us. Sometimes we put ourselves in places where we shouldn't be.
Get spiritual help, a pastor, a christian counselor, get a mature wise friend involved. You must have a working relationship. You need to get help in the beginning of problems, instead of when you are on the bottom.
Heb. 13:17 Be responsive to your pastoral leaders. Listen to their counsel. They are alert to the condition of your lives and work under the strict supervision of God
When we seek God's guidance for our lives in the daily routines, then it's easier to turn to Him in the real crises of life.
Matt. 6:11 Give us this day our daily bread...its seeking God...on a consistent basis.